Perhaps you’ve mastered using the three-act storytelling structure to craft stories for your speech. You know the difference between a story and an anecdote (and why it matters). You even use present tense to make your stories more impactful.
But many speakers make this all-too-common mistake when crafting, performing, and delivering their stories onstage: They assume that their personal stories should be the centerpiece of their speech.
Now, I’m not suggesting you cut your personal stories altogether. Your personal accounts about overcoming a significant setback, discovering an important idea, or learning a valuable life lesson might be important, or even essential, for your speech.
Stories add essential contrast, help drive home teaching points, solidify your Core Message, and, when performed in a unique or memorable way, can even become your signature bit.
But in order to make a personal story you share resonate more deeply with your audience, it can’t be just about you.
Audience-Focused Storytelling
The best stories aren’t about you. They’re about the audience.
Maybe you're telling your story. But if you want it to land, the audience must see themselves in it. They must recognize their struggles, their aspirations, their fears. Your job as a speaker isn’t just to share what happened to you, it’s to make your story a mirror for your audience’s own experiences.
The five audience-focused storytelling principles below can help you tell personal stories that resonate powerfully with your audience.
#1 Use Less Backstory
Tell less, show more is perhaps the most common piece of storytelling advice. We hear it so often, but actually putting it into practice can be challenging. But here’s a simple way to “tell less”: Eliminate unnecessary details that don’t move the story forward.
Usually, these details suffocate the exposition of your story, the first act where you set the scene. As much as we love our own backstories and think that our audience just absolutely must know that we were wearing a white pair of classic Converse Chuck 70 sneakers when it happened, cutting extra information makes your story much better.
This is even true when we add more details, examples, and information to be sure the audience “gets it” (or because we want them to think we’re smart and know what we’re talking about). Cut to the meat. Be wary of extraneous details that disrupt the flow of your story.
Your audience doesn’t need all the backstory you think they do.